Everything Must Change

Now maybe some of you wonder why I have decided to take on a new approach.

Let me tell you this: the old me isn't any better than most of Mankind. He usually complains a lot, worry more on everything, pays little attention to small but important things, and tends to be pessimistic about everything happening. Sure, he takes advice, but in the end, he forgets the lessons learned. And then ends up regretting and hating himself. It's all leading him downward into an abyss.

Well, no more. The new Calvyn will do all he can to inspire people around him. He will listen more and hear less. He will talk only when he knows what needs to be said. He will see things from their viewpoint, even though it may not be so agreeable. He will pay attention to the little things that matter. He will cherish the friends he makes. He will rebuild broken bridges with friends he may lose. He will gladly celebrate the joys of one's achievement, even if it's better than his own. He will be a helping hand in times of sorrow. And he will do all in his power to ensure every one around him becomes empowered to be great people.

No more quick judgments. No more doubting people or their abilities. No more berating. No more complaining. (Well, maybe a little wouldn't hurt, hehe) No more fussing around. And enough of worrying and overthinking! They're only gonna break me!

I realize that for the past 17 years of my life, I spent much of it doing things I shouldn't have done altogether. And in those years, I realized I made many brash mistakes that cost me. I never thought I'd had been like so until I looked back clearly. Man, what a mess! So I'd better use the remaining time that I have to improve myself and others in the process.

I have made it my goal to help at least a hundred people before I die. And help here doesn't just mean helping out with homework, or lending a spare dollar for the bus fare. Helping people takes time, patience and energy and also needs one to make lots of sacrifices. You can't expect results almost immediately when you help someone. It usually takes time. Sure, short-term problems CAN be solved in a day if you work on it. But the longer-term ones need continual monitoring and maintenance to ensure the problem is addressed. Whether you're mentoring someone to greatness, or leading a group in a specific task, it demands your time, effort, patience and willpower.

Do you think it's selfish? I leave that to you to say. Me, I justify myself by reminding myself that whatever good I do, I must do it with a willing heart. And I always remember that when I help someone, they may have the inclination to help others as well. I now always occupy my mind with positive thoughts on making people have a positive outlook on life and do positive things to others around them. Even if I don't get the expected results... well, I'm sure to be disappointed, but I guess that means I should be more careful when it comes to investing in people. But now I enjoy it when I help someone willingly.

When you help someone without expecting a reward, you inevitably find yourself rewarded. Your good deed comes back to you like a boomerang. What goes around comes around. Karma.

Sure, everyone has their wants and needs. All you have to do is to offer them the means so that they can get what they want and need. Motivation has a way of spurring the mind to do even the impossible. The possibilities are endless for inspired, motivated people! It just requires a little bit of investment in people. But of course, the best results come from people who you know are the right people needed today. If they have the potential waiting to be tapped, then go on and spur them to unravel it! If you train them well enough, they will ultimately change the fate of the world for the better. You'll never know.

And I also admit, even though I tell you that I am doing all I can to do the best, there will inevitably be times when shit will unfortunately hit the fan. But no fear. I will take it easy. I won't be running around, panicking like a madman over trivial matters. I'll look into the problem, see what may have caused it. It could be me that's the problem; I will address it quickly and make sure I remember that mistake so as not to repeat it again. If the problem is external, I will go to the source - be it a person, an object or a situation. If it's a person, I will open my ears and heart to listen to his or her reasons. If an object, I'll see how I can use it to turn things around, or if needs be disposed of to prevent future mishaps. If a situation, I do a thorough investigation and see what solution I can come up with.

I believe in people. I believe in my friends, especially. And I have high faith in them. Why do I put my trust in them so much when I know that some friends may only stay for a season, or come in for a reason? And then what about those that last a lifetime? I will mention those in a future post. For now, I just want you all to understand that the old is no more, and only the new is here. And I hope that through this new image I carry, I can truly help every single one of you change towards greatness.

Ah, if I had only learned all this sooner. Heh, but there's no time to regret. Know your past, remember the mistakes you made then, and make sure they don't occur again in future!

Cheers!