There Is Love - If You Know Where To Look

Now the main reason why I decided to highlight this topic is because of how people seem to misunderstand the real deal love brings. I was especially motivated by certain events that involved other people from all walks of life, and it only made me think about how most of us react to love. But please do remember that these are NOT professionally written thoughts; these are how I see the point. If you'd like to clarify or add to something, you are most welcome to do so.

When it comes to loving someone, there are a whole lot of factors that need to be taken into consideration. These include commitment to one another, trust in each other, and patience with each other. Most of the time, short-term couples exist because there is none of these elements in their lives. They just go by it because of what they call 'love for each other'. Hearing that makes me laugh.

There are couples who have commitment, but don't have trust. That won't work because even if you're committed to each other's wellbeing, without trust you're only going to end up bickering with each other. Those who have trust but have no commitment face that problem too; in the end, they can never stay in a stable relationship because both parties don't want to do their part. Then there are those without patience; that is a disaster waiting to happen. I can go on with the list, but you already can tell what will happen next.

Let's face it: when you're really in love, both parties will stay true to each other no matter what happens. It takes lots of effort to make sure the relationship is going to be a lasting one. Firstly, when they start feeling mutual liking for one another, the number one factor that ensures their love goes on is TRUST. They need to let each other know how they really feel about one another. They can't hide any secrets that may jeopardize the relationship. They must be willing to make sacrifices in order to let their love grow. Trust is the basis to every kind of relationship; without it, it's like a building without it's foundation. And technically, when you don't have a foundation, you can't build anything!

When they have trust, they must also have COMMITMENT to complement that trust. When they are committed to making it last, they add to their trust-building by focusing solely on each other's needs. They commit to their love by making more sacrifices; cultivating their love in a positive way; put the situation ahead of their relationship; and also share the satisfaction they gain from each other, simply by being in their company or doing something nice for them. Committed couples who have trust can go far, but even so the foundation still needs to be strengthened.

That's where PATIENCE comes in. When the lovers have patience, nothing can break 'em. Rome wasn't built in a day, and you can't expect love to instantly become strong once you've made the feelings known to one another. That is wrong! They need to build it up slowly and at a constant pace. There's no need to rush, as rushing it will only complicate matters further. After all impatient people are the ones who always lose the most, because they expect their seeds to bloom into flowers right after you plant them. Everything takes time, and it demands patience.

So unless you and your future partner can answer these questions:
Do we trust each other well enough?
Are we committed in making this relationship last?
Do we have the patience to build our love slowly?
Then you can consider starting a relationship with him or her.

But be warned! When it comes to dating at an early age, there are perils. It's all about raging hormones when you're a teen, and they usually cloud your judgment. Sure, there are couples who have dated even since Form Four. Unfortunately, most of these relationships are only temporary, because in the end the momentum they carried with them lost its energy while the journey was still going on. And let's not forget our parents also have veto power in these matters; you just have to know whether he or she IS the right one, and that both your parents agree with your decision, or you may end up regretting or broken hearted.

There are always external factors too that can make or break relationships, even the strongest ones. Jealousy, envy, greed, pride, lust, vanity - these are some of love's deadliest enemies. The moment you have any form of these sins creep into your life, you had better snuff them out of your life or they will ruin it badly. Even couples married for decades can end up divorcing if the man spends too much time gambling, or abusing his wife. Love is indeed a gift of God, but the Devil is always lurking around to place God's plans into a standstill.

I will elaborate more on this topic in a later post. Hopefully, this post will give you a small insight into what really makes love tick.

Cheers!